Beyond Shyness – A mother’s story on Selective Mutism

I have known a number of children with Selective Mutism and have often heard the following misconceptions from well meaning parents or teachers: "It is just poor parenting. The child needs to learn some manners." - Yet the other siblings have no issues with communicating publicly. "She needs some privileges taken away. That will deal with her stubbornness." - This never serves  to change the behaviour. It only ever heightens the anxiety. "He's just shy and he will grow out of it soon." Read more [...]

Is my child on the Autism Spectrum?

The Autism Spectrum is exactly that - A spectrum. Not every child will behave in the same way or present with the same strengths or struggles. Hence, I get frustrated when I read articles disclosing ‘research’, which suggest that children can ‘grow out of autism’. This only serves to lay guilt and despair at the door of parents, when their child is not magically ‘cured’ of autism. Read more [...]

Teen Birthdays & Autism

Birthdays should be a day of celebration. Right? I love birthdays. I mean really love birthdays. I try and make a fuss about them because I think it is a day to celebrate. The day you came into this crazy world. A day to say you matter above everything and everyone else, today is all about you and how much I love having you in my world. This last weekend my darling D19 left the good old teenage years and rolled over into the big bad twenties. I tried to make it a day of celebration for him but I failed. MISERABLY. Read more [...]

The Hug – Are we punishing affection?

As published on iVillage  Hugging is something that children do naturally, yet schools are banning it in the playground. Last Thursday saw a 12 year old student in WA, receive a detention for hugging a classmate. Have we gone daft in our protection policies? Ask any parents and they will tell you, there is little that will settle a baby like the warm embrace of his family. For decades we’ve known that babies don’t thrive without physical contact and affection. Cuddling helps the Read more [...]

An ADHD Partnership – Your Stories 2

To sum it up, my life has never been predictable or dull being married to my husband. As I have embraced life with him so he has understood my needs as well and will often, while on holiday, take the kids to run off his energy with them while I stay and curl up with my book and glass of wine or a cup of coffee! I believe the key is not to fight the differences in each other but embrace them. We are celebrating our 14th wedding anniversary and I am more in love with my bundle of energy man than ever and I look so forward to our new adventures in the years ahead. Read more [...]

Christmas & Supporting Families with Autism

BUT for Annie it is not normal, she has very strong memories of the last 3 years Christmas celebrations on Boxing Day and is really distressed that we are changing it. Lengthy discussions about family history, photos of previous happy Christmas Eve celebrations are doing nothing to change her mind. Read more [...]

Adults Living with ADHD – Your Stories (No 1)

This is the first of a few posts called 'Adults Living with ADHD'. I wrote a post called 'ADHD - Is it Still a 4 Letter Word?'  and was inundated with hope-filled stories by parents. Following this, I decided to create these posts covering adults' stories, as I noticed that parents of children with an ADHD diagnosis would often voice their concern for the future of their children. My following posts will be from other adults that have contacted me and would like to share their stories with Read more [...]

ADHD – Your stories

Two weeks ago I wrote an article called, 'ADHD - Is it Still a 4 Letter Word?' . It was barely up on the blog and I received the most beautiful comments from parents, which again spoke to me of the sometimes silent journey that they walk as they feel judged and questioned by others. I then asked for parents to write to me about their ADHD journeys, which I would publish as an encouragement for others. I was overwhelmed and thrilled by the response of parents to this request. Many people said how thrilled they were that I had spoken the words that had been in their hearts for a long time. Read more [...]

ADHD – Is it still a 4 letter word?

Although, I strongly advise parents never to just jump into a diagnosis. Perhaps wait a while, especially with a young child, to see if it just immaturity and don’t be afraid to get a second opinion. Very often parents have a gut feel anyway, and know their child best! Read more [...]